Intentional rudeness for the sake of being rude..this is something that gets under my skin and claws at my gray matter. I will never understand the motivation behind it.
I got a nasty taste of that today, from a loved one of all people. This person, for whatever reason, was compelled to say rude things to me out of the blue as though he was engaging in commonplace convo.
There is this tendency to have a scenario where we are having a perfectly nice time...until (fill in the blank). All I know, is there is no good reason to be rude for no good reason! I am the type of person who will care deeply for you, yet just as quickly "X" you out of my circle when I am on the receiving end of such behavior.
I hate that it bothers me when I know I shouldn't be bothered by such bullshit. Sometimes I find it appaling that people think there is no limit to what they can get away with.
In my eyes, your status, income, possessions, appearance (or apparent lack thereof) mean nothing if, when all is said and done, you're just an asshole in the end. An asshole is still an asshole no matter how you dress it up, isn't it?
For me, if someone puffs up in the chest and begins to think their shit don't stink, thereby convincing themselves that it is okay to be rude to the people in their lives who are willing to put up with their shit (within reasonable limits), I will still say the same thing now that I've said in the past...
It's who you are as a person, the character under the skin, that makes you or breaks you. Everything else is extra credit. But without that "A", without a solid foundation, your extra credit is no good to anyone. Let's face it-good things come and go, but it's the relationships you have with a loved one that keep you warm at night. Sure, compiling a bunch of consumer shit is fine and dandy, but its not what you have that matters most. It's who you have. You can lose one, both, or none. Choose wisely.
Sometimes when people get a good break they get cocky and suddenly forget that "manners" is even a word. They shit on people who have been there for them during their lowest of times; People who believed in the good in that person, only to be revisited by the ugly in that person, just when you thought it had vanished for good.
Now, wouldn't that loyalty be in vain if all that led to were more shitty times? And wouldn't the giver of rude then be shit out of luck when all that really mattered is lost for good one of these days?
After all, frosting without a cake, is just frosting. You can try to substitute the cake with another, but nothing goes better than the cake it was originally intended for.
Moral of the story: Think first..speak after, not vice versa. It'll do wonders for the relationship.
Be intentional about how you treat the people who helped you achieve things in your life that you would have otherwise not had access to.
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